My blog...My feelings

Apparently I should clarify my blog about Karl not being "very involved" with his family.

That was not to say he doesn't love them, that's just Karl. He'd spend his life as a hermit if it wasn't for me. He just doesn't go out of his way to do anything.

His mother and his sister are the only family he has (and now his dad is around.)

He does love them and would do anything for them.


His mother has never done anything but supported us, in every way. I have no problems with her, nor does he....at all.

His sister, and namely the way she treats his WIFE is the problem. She's a spiteful, snotty person to me (not to most people just for the record.)

She is VERY self absorbed, too much to see the problems she causes around her. It's all about Mallory. And that's fine.

Karl & I have been together for pushing seven years.
We have been through lots of ups and downs.
We've fought and made up with the best of them.
The bottom line is we are in this forever.
No one *NO ONE* will ever come between us. We are too close for that.

Karl and I are soul mates in the truest sense of the word. We balance each other completely. What I am get upset, he does not and is able to calm me down. What he gets upset about, I do not, and I can calm him down. (Ok sometimes...most times he's better at this than I am..)

So on holidays when I usually try to make sure we are all together, no more. If Susana wants to come over and watch the girls open presents and share a meal...GREAT!

Last year I learned where we rank with Mallory. We were fit in somewhere between Christmas Eve & Christmas Day with Sean's parents and Christmas Eve morning with John (Sean's friend.) I started calling weeks in advance. Oh and nothing on Thanksgiving at all. That was Sean's family, who don't even celebrate Thanksgiving.
All that even though this was the first year Susana celebrated either holiday. Nice!

My feeling is this.....
I've tried, really tried to be the person I would want some one to be to me. I have gone out of my way to make sure I am not letting my personal feelings affect how I treat some one.

I make *ALL* the effort to be decent to Mallory. Helpful beyond what a "normal" sister in law would be. And still I am treated with no regard. So I'm done. That is not my family. Never was, never will be.



Susana is my mother in law and I love her...She is there at the drop of a hat.




But short of a lot of things changing...I'm good not having Mallory in my life, ever.

Karl is free to spend whatever time he wants with her, and I will never object...but as for me and mine...no thanks.

I am blessed with multiple good friends that I KNOW would be there for me no matter what time of day or night. I do not need people in my life who treat me poorly.... Karma will handle that all on it's own.

Those are MY thoughts.....this is MY blog. I don't have to like everyone.